Hi Heather,
I agree, your situation sounds to be the 'norm' for many students with no degrees. I don't know what couples in your situation do to alleviate the situation.
However, from what I have been researching, there appears to be a lack of concrete information of how to approach the new requirements required. But I did find Dave's ESL cafe forums to be informative and people respond to your posted concerns.
I hope this helps.?!
Know that you are not alone with this situation.